And things aren’t going to suddenly get less busy. Unless you become incarcerated. Or you slip into a coma.
Work, kids, activities, social engagements, chores, errands, the pursuit of happiness–these things take time and we get busy and yes, there’s gettin’ busy, which also requires time. A little anyway. Hi honey.
I often ask incredulously, “How is it possible that I’m SO busy? I work from home, part-time.” The fact is, life is as busy as it we allow it to become. That’s deep. I need to italicize that.
Having a full and active life isn’t a bad thing. But, when it causes you to shirk certain responsibilities like calling your ninety year old grandpa on a regular basis or to let important relationships slide, busy becomes a four letter word.
We can always find time to surf the net, watch a movie, get our hair done. We’re not too busy for those things.
So when we tell someone we’re too busy to see them, to call them, to check in with them, in essence we are saying, “I could meet you for coffee, but I’d rather hang out at home in my pyjamas and tweet while I drink coffee on my comfy couch. Sorry. I’m just too busy.”
We don’t mean any harm.
We’re just TIRED…another ugly four letter word.
When we’re tired, we gravitate toward things we enjoy and that are easy.
Though I have reservations about resolutions, I’m making one this year. I’ve had a revelation and I’m starting a revolution. I’m setting aside my reservations for a revelation inspired resolution revolution.
Put simply, I resolve to MAKE the time to be more thoughtful. To nurture the relationships that mean something. To put aside the “busy” and focus on what matters.
Who’s with me? And please don’t say you’re too busy.
* Addendum: Tired is actually five letters, not four, as pointed out by a friend who is clearly not as tired as I am.