One of my daughter’s favourite Education Assistants at school is expecting a baby. This has resulted in great excitement at home and a lot of questions from my daughter. Like, “When are you having another baby, mum?” (Um, when pigs fly.) And, “When can I have a baby?” This one always breaks my heart a little. And, “Is Mrs. R’s baby going to be a boy or a girl?” (We now know the baby is a boy!!) And, “What will we name him?” Notice how she’s inserted herself into the process?
We won’t know the baby’s name until he’s born because they’re keeping it a surprise. Smart move.
When my husband and I were expecting our first baby we had a name reveal party—just for a few close family members including the grandparents and godparents. It was mostly an excuse for a festive get-together. Pregnant women will go to great lengths to have food made for them.
We did this later into the pregnancy when we were confident this one was “for real.” Those who have miscarried know what I’m talking about. Somewhere around dessert we shared the boy and girl name options for our soon to be first born. We kept it a surprise for everyone else.
The downside of sharing your baby’s name ahead of time is that everyone will have an opinion about it, positive and negative. Like, “Oh, Sebastian. Really? That seems like a very big name for a little baby.” Turns out he was a very large baby, so it fit.
I love hearing about how people choose their baby’s names.
I have questions.
Did you choose the name because you’ve always loved it? Or maybe you heard it in a song or a movie? Is it a family name? Or perhaps it just has a nice ring to it?
Before you decided on a name, did you do the initial test? Did you write out your child’s potential full name to make sure their initials don’t spell “POO” or “ASS?” If you name your child Sarah Olivia Brown, she’ll be known as an SOB her whole life, and that’s on you.
Did you share your baby’s name ahead of time? Did you call her by her given name from the time you found out the sex (if you did) and let everyone know via Facebook status update that “Baby Bethany just kicked!” or “Baby Bethany is breach!”?
Did you practice saying your child’s name aloud to make sure it sounds right when put all together? You really, really should.
We liked the named Quinn for a girl. And we already knew the middle name we’d use. Elisabeth (a combo of Lisa from me, and Elizabeth from my mom). But if you say it out loud, it’s problematic. Go ahead, try it out.
For our second child we made a list of favourite boy and girl names (even though I secretly already knew the baby’s gender. My husband did not.).
Avery Elisabeth was our girl pick left over from last time. I’d heard Avery used as a boy’s name, but loved the sound of it for a girl. Also, it should be noted that I have a thing for syllables. I like the first and last names to match. It’s a rhythm thing.
My husband fretted over a boy name. I pretended to care, but since I knew our daughter Avery was on her way, I wasn’t at all invested in choosing the perfect male name.
I suggested Grady or Griffin. My top boy choices. Not that I cared, because like I said, GIRL CHILD ON THE WAY!!!!
We both liked Kingsley, but when we performed the mandatory, “Say your kid’s name aloud test” we agreed that Kingsley Thornbury was better suited to a child a child of regal decent. Could you imagine the flack we’d get for Quinn Elisabeth and Kingsley Thornbury? We’d have to roll out a red carpet and toot a little horn every time they stepped onto the playground.
So when my husband told me he had his heart set on Grayson (Gray is a family name and the boy would be our son so, Gray-Son. My husband is big on symbolism obviously.) I graciously let him have it. heh heh
When our daughter was born, my husband said through tears, “I’m shocked.”
“That we have a girl?” I asked, sweetly.
“No.” he replied quite seriously. “That you could actually keep a secret for once.”
And then I called him a name. I won’t tell you which one.