Tag - mindful

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Are You Happy? If Not, Why?
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Why mindful? And what does that even mean anyway?
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Small Kids, Big Worries
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Karma Cleanse

Are You Happy? If Not, Why?

If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands. What, no clapping? Aren’t you happy?!  Well, don’t let that make you sad because not many of us are consistently happy. According to the studies anyway. Science has us pegged as a sad sack of SOBs just trying to make it until cocktail hour.  My daughter however, she’s perpetually happy. She gleefully claps her hands all the time for no apparent reason. It’s like a happiness explosion where her joy just can’t be contained and the sudden burst of happy claps is a way to let it out.  I consider myself a very happy person, but I can’t say I feel “happiness explosion happiness” in adulthood very often. But alas, nobody is as happy as Avery. She doesn’t fit the typical mould. She doesn’t worry. She doesn’t know fear. And there’s zero hate in this kid’s world. It just doesn’t exist for her. I’d say she’s 90 per cent happy—9 per cent ‘meh’, when she’s tired or told, “No, you can’t host a play date right now.” And 1 per cent legitimate sorrow, usually when she’s missing a loved one. The rest of the time, bliss.  I get the sense[…]

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Why mindful? And what does that even mean anyway?

I thought I was perfectly happy living in the past and contemplating every conceivable permutation for the future, oblivious to what was going on around me in the present. This whole being mindful and “living in the moment” concept was foreign to me. I like to hang onto things—to cling to past experiences and their corresponding feelings (good and bad) like some kind of memory hoarder.  At the same time, I enjoy time travel into the future. If only I had a functional crystal ball I wouldn’t have to spend so much time guessing and imagining what lies ahead. I like to know how things are going to play out so I create possible scenarios in my head. It’s a crap shoot really. About 90% of my predictions are wrong. Or more often, by the time the future becomes the now, I’ve long forgotten what outcome I was trying to orchestrate in the first place.  My husband started learning about mindfulness years ago, long before it became a trend. And man, has it ever become a trendy. These days you can’t swing a yoga mat without hitting a millennial meditating or a #mindful hashtag.  Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon[…]

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Small Kids, Big Worries

Anxiety is a pain. Whether we come by it genetically or situationally, it hits all of us at various times in our lives. I’ve written about my struggle with worry—as a parent of a child with a variety of medical issues, I worried about our girl a lot. I looked too far ahead and fretted about the what ifs. I couldn’t stop the catastrophizing.  When you live in the past or in the future, you miss the present, and that’s where all good stuff happens. So I did the cognitive behavioural therapy exercises and it made a world of difference. Don’t get me wrong, I still have moments where I freak the hell out, but I know how to reign it in. This whole being mindful thing is a work in progress.  Adults coping with anxiety is one thing, but what about children with anxiety? Watching your child worry is like being poked in the stomach with a sharp stick.  I’ll unabashedly tell you about my battle with my worry monster, but sharing someone else’s story is offside. But I can say that having a sibling with disabilities can create fear and anxiety for good reason. Watching your sibling choke and[…]

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Karma Cleanse

  I originally called this little #karmacleanse exercise a ‘Karma Kleanse’ but then I remembered that purposely using the wrong letters to be cute annoys some people and god knows I wouldn’t want to annoy them and have them talk behind my back or sarcastically tweet about how “Some people think they’re so clever using two ks.” The level of back stabbing and gossip and PATs (passive aggressive tweets) online is astounding. Whether you choose to participate or feed into it, is totally up to you. If you swim with sharks, you’re bound to get bitten. I prefer adorable dolphins. And whales and of course super cute seahorses. I manage the social media end of things for several brands which means I’m kicking on social media a lot. I am fully immersed in it — the good, the bad, and the downright ugly. The downright ugly seems to have exploded lately. I’m looking at you, trolls.  This ever growing negativity doesn’t just exist online. It’s everywhere—at the grocery store, in the park, in the school parking lot, on television, in magazines. We can’t seem to escape the heavy black cloud of negative ions (that’s a science thing) hanging over our heads. And what’s[…]

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