Archive - April 2011

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The Truth Fairy
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Her Voice
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Gotta Run
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Difficult Conversations With My Child – Part 2
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Difficult Conversations With My Child – Part 1

The Truth Fairy

How long is it acceptable for your child to believe in the Tooth Fairy? My son is nearly eight and fully believes a magical winged creature breaks and enters into our home to purchase his grungy teeth to add to her toothy collection. It’s a bizarre concept right?   Yesterday my son had four teeth extracted. Poor kid has been cursed with his mother’s toothy grin – too many teeth, not enough jaw. The dentist has a plan to make room for incomers to minimize the impending overcrowding. My boy was a little nervous, but the anticipation of the Tooth Fairy’s bounty overshadowed his fear.    Last night, after examining his tiny teeth for the umpteenth time, he carefully stowed them inside his tooth keeper and tucked it under his pillow. A few hours later, an extremely tired Tooth Fairy tippy toed (loudly) into his dark bedroom. I deftly (not even close) removed the tooth keeper and promptly dropped it on the floor. After retrieving the tooth case from under the bed, I stood up ready to make my escape but cracked my head on the underside of the bunk bed. FYI, the Tooth Fairy has a mouth on her[…]

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Her Voice

Avery uses two-three word phrases and a wide variety of ASL signs to communicate, but often struggles to get her message across.  Just imagine the frustration of having something to say, but not being able to say it. My son’s (awesome) teacher sent me the link to this amazing video. I defy anyone to watch it without getting emotional when the father in the clip speaks about his daughter who until recently, has been silenced by Autism. Avery is not Autistic, but as the parent of a unique child, I related to similar challenges. We should never assume to know what our children can or cannot do. A child’s voice may be faint, but this doesn’t mean they don’t have something important to say. Perhaps they will live life in a whisper, but perhaps one day their voice will ring out strong and clear for all to hear. If you have a few minutes, it’s worth listening to Carly Fleishmann’s unique voice. 

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Gotta Run

I haven’t exactly been sticking to the training schedule for the 10 km race my husband and I signed up for. Correction: HE signed us up for. Seriously, why is running (unless you’re late for a spa appointment or being chased by an angry squirrel) ever necessary??     Oh right. My butt. That’s why.  * Artist: DS      

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Difficult Conversations With My Child – Part 2

Forget the babbling brook, I’m a rambling river. I’m not sure why I feel compelled to tell people everything. Maybe it’s the need to vent, to seek feedback, validation, advice, a laugh. Who knows? But if loose lips sink ships, I should really have my own personal Coast Guard.   I may over-share on a regular basis within my social network (and the occasional innocent bystander at the grocery check-out) but I am able to curtail my TMI tendencies when it comes to my kids.   Children hang on our every word. WHAT we say and HOW we say it—it’s our job to try to insulate our kids from worry, horror, despair, and unthinkable sadness.   We can’t completely shelter our children from the harsh realities of life. But if possible we can try to shield them from the really scary sh*t so they can feel safe and secure for as long as possible.    This is why I chose initially not to tell my son that Zack passed away.   The boys never met in person, but my son knew about Zack and his family. He knew Zack was Avery’s friend. He heard me speak about Zack’s parents. He knew[…]

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Difficult Conversations With My Child – Part 1

  I knew it would happen, I just didn’t expect it would be today.   Instead of chatting about his day or having a snack, my boy took his sister right upstairs after school. I could hear him asking her to repeat after him as he named objects around his room. I’ll be very surprised if this child doesn’t end up going into teaching when he grows up.   He suddenly came downstairs, looking frightened, saying he was having “bad feelings about Avery.”   “What if Avery choked?” he asked. “What would we do? I’m scared something bad is going to happen to her.”   He looked so sincerely worried it scared me.   “Why do you think she’ll choke?” I asked him, trying to determine the source of his anxiety.   He said kids at school were talking about choking and Epi-pens. They asked him if Avery had one. This is when he spoke the words I knew would eventually come. The words I wasn’t quite ready to hear.   One of his classmates asked, “What’s wrong with your sister anyway?”   This child wasn’t being cruel, he was merely curious as kids are. Though Avery’s delays aren’t visible[…]

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